The Typical Scenario

Have you ever been in a relationship where there was little no trust, perhaps cheating was involved? One of those situations that you shouldn't have been in and you kept telling yourself you deserved better? I know this has happened to me and I KNOW there are so many women (and men) who have been wronged in one way or another.

Cheating is one of those things that just happens sometimes (I guess). It's not preventable...I feel like EVERYONE will be cheated on at least once. Whether you find out about it or not is a different story. It's funny, because as I am typing this blog, "Creep" by TLC just came on VH1 Soul. Songs, books and even reality shows circle around the act of cheating. People give advice on what to do if it happens to you or even how to prevent it from happening to you in the first place (like there is really a cut in stone method for something like that). I guess it makes people feel good to think they have the answers...even though they really don't.

Nonetheless, this video More Than Love by Amerie featuring Fabolous depicts a woman who is frustrated by her boyfriend. She has no trust for him...and she says that she needs MORE than love to make the relationship work. She is even contemplating leaving him....that is until he gives her the keys to a brand new ride. From her face and her reaction to the gift, you could tell she wasn't going anywhere. But ladies...is this really all you need when it comes to mending a relationship? It happens so many times and it caught my eye that it was portrayed in this video. How can you so upset and disgusted one minute in reaction to the actions of your partner (including but not limited to cheating, verbal abuse, physical abuse and other actions that devalue you) but as soon as he shines a big rock in your face or a new car or a wad of cash...all of the sudden the dirt that he's done has been swept under the rug?????

Obviously, my thoughts are that even with the new fur coat or benz in the driveway...the relationship isn't salvaged! Money doesn't make you love somebody more or less! You might love the life you're able to live because of the money, or you may love the money itself...but someone hanging money in your face isn't gonna make them a better husband (or wife)...it's not gonna make them less abusive....it's not gonna make that beer belly look slimmer...it's not gonna make them stop cheating. It might make you care less about those other things...but that's just a band-aid. Get to the root cause of the problem and nip it in the bud. Peace.

Thoughts on this is appreciated!